3 Ways to Reconnect with Yourself
*In collaboration with Sleep Advisor*
It’s so very easy to get lost in this modern fast-paced world of ours. Every hour we’re awake our self confidence seems to be under attack. We are either bombarded with advertisements intended to make us doubt ourselves or we’re scrolling through ‘friends’ social media posts feeling like failures at life.
One day you wake up and suddenly you can’t actually remember who you are anymore.
It often feels like we are running at full speed just to stay still. Sometimes you just wish you could pause it all. That you could press a button on some kind of cosmic remote control and the world would stand still long enough for you to gather your breath and just catch up.
If you’ve ever felt the way I’ve described above then take a deep breath, or six, go make yourself a nice glass of green tea (don’t forget the slice of lemon) and then come back and read my 3 ways to reconnect with yourself below.
What does spiritual mean? ALL the common misconceptions and my take on what being spiritual means to me.
So last night I had a thought…there are SO many misconceptions about what being SPIRITUAL means, right? I think so many people avoid this journey because of the negative connotations and misconceptions out there. I started writing down all the misconceptions, the clichés, the commonly held beliefs about spirituality that I’ve heard and felt before. Many of these are ones that actually initially turned me off from becoming spiritual myself! It wasn’t until early 2016 that I really started on my spirituality journey and since I started, it’s taken on so many different forms.
I’ve gone to somewhat extremes on either end of the spectrum to find where I fit in the middle. From hating the word God to reading a book called “Conversations With God” (that I highly recommend by the way!), to staying with a shaman in the rainforests of Peru and going on a plant medicine “healing” journey, to hiring a spiritual health coach, to going on a 5-day silent retreat by myself, practicing yoga, meditating daily, reading different spiritual books, and the list goes on.
I’ve been exploring as much as I can about the different modalities and cultures of spirituality so that I can start to develop my own definition of what it means to me. And I think that’s what’s most important. That YOU define what being spiritual means to YOU. It’s different from person to person and that’s the beauty of it!
I would love to hear, what are some of the misconceptions you’ve heard or FELT about spirituality? And what does being spiritual REALLY mean to you? What is spirituality to you?
Here are some of the ones that I hear and feel the most.
Being spiritual means being religious.
The #1 Mistake New Online Entrepreneurs Make That Cause Them To Quit
Hi friends! Ok, it’s been a while since posting on the blog. I’ve been in launch mode with my new group coaching program, Path to Freedom, that teaches women how to quit their jobs by starting their own online businesses in as little as 6 weeks…and now I’m letting the dust settle and getting revved up to serve the awesome ladies in my new group! Today I want to talk to you about the biggest mistake new online entrepreneurs make that cause them to quit before they really get any traction!
So before I jump in, I want to let you know that I did a FB Live video about this topic recently; you can check it out by clicking the image below.
Ok, so let’s just dive in! The BIGGEST, aka the #1 mistake new online entrepreneurs make is this: they start an online business before they take the time to connect with their souls or true selves.
This is a huge mistake. Actually, it’s the #1 mistake new online entrepreneurs make!
Why? Because if you don’t connect with your soul first, then chances are your business will not be sustainable.
What happens when you let others define success for you
Ahhh, this is going to be a very vulnerable post (because I talk about being fired for the first time to ANYONE besides the 5 closest people to me…here it goes! <3
For a long time I let my version of success be defined by other people. I think most of us do, it’s almost a part of being human – we care what other people think of us, we want to be liked, and we want to fit in. So we often define our version of success or a happy life based on what other people think success or happiness means so we can fit in and be liked.
It wasn’t until I got sick that I stopped and paused long enough to realize this was even happening. For most of my 20’s, I thought success to me meant climbing the corporate ladder, earning 6 figures for a company that was “cool” or highly respected.
After college I worked hard to find a job that I could wear as a badge of honor. I was praying I wouldn’t get one at a company no one had heard of doing work no one would see – the horror! I guess fortunately for my ego at the time I landed a job at a well known advertising agency working on one of the most well known & cool brands in the world.
“Cool!” I thought, “Now anyone who looks at my LinkedIn page will think I’m awesome!” LOL, or something along those lines.
I’m pretty sure NO ONE thought that when they found out I (sort of) worked for this big name brand. In fact, I’m positive no one thought that. Truthfully, no one cares where you work and no one thinks you’re cooler or any better of a person because of that either. Even though it feels that way. Trust me, I know the feeling.
But when I got fired from that job (more on that in a bit) and started working at my next job at a place no one had heard of, nothing changed. Well that’s not true, I learned a lot from being fired, but like I said, more on that in a minute. When I mean nothing changed I mean the fact that I had gone from working for this cool brand to company “unknown” didn’t affect any of my relationships. I didn’t become less cool. I didn’t become any less of a person because of it…
What if you let yourself be OK with being the dumbest person in the room? What if you gave yourself permission to not know everything? What if you let yourself off the hook and allowed yourself not to be better, smarter, more attractive than other people? To not be perfect all the damn time?
How much pressure would that take off of you? How much more would you accomplish simply by being OK with not being the smartest, most successful person in the room? How much more would you learn?
So many of us hold ourselves back by not going after what we want, not going after our dreams or goals because we’re afraid that if we can’t be the best, if we can’t do something perfectly, then we shouldn’t do it at all. Or if we fail then we’ll look like an idiot or a loser or a complete failure. We miss out on learning opportunities because we don’t want to be a dumbass.
So what if you let yourself be the dumbass?
Dumbasses are worthy too…
Want to change your life? Stop relying on willpower and do this instead.
I feel like we were all fed the same BS when we were younger – if you want to accomplish something you need to have willpower. If you’re trying to change your life and it’s not working, you might think to yourself, “I must not have enough willpower. I need to work harder.” But you just find yourself getting more tired and frustrated the harder you force yourself to work. Let me tell you why this is wrong!
You know when you’re working on a project for school or work and it’s just totally uninteresting and boring? That’s when you need willpower. But have you ever worked on a passion project where time just flew by and you finished it almost effortlessly? As if you didn’t have to exert any willpower whatsoever to make it happen? The difference is working on something that you are excited about and really want versus something that doesn’t align with what you really want to be doing. So what does this mean if you want to change your life and go after some big goals?
If you feel like you’re forcing yourself to work on something or asking yourself to dig deeper for more willpower then you’re not working on the right thing for you. In other words – you need to re-evaluate what it is that you truly want.
In my experience, if you want to change your life and accomplish your goals you need to get crystal clear on what you want first. Not what you think you want, not what your family or friends want, not what you wanted a year ago, but what you truly want now. What sets your heart on fire, what excites your soul, what drives you to work tirelessly without force? That’s what you need to identify if you want to change your life and turn those dreams into reality.
You can exert all the willpower you want, but without knowing exactly where you want to go you’ll just be spinning your wheels.
Hell. We’ve all been there right? Whether you’re struggling with a difficult illness, going through a bad breakup, dealign with a job loss, grieving the loss of a loved one, or any other hell-ish experience, you know what it’s like to be feeling the lowest of lows. Sometimes it feels like it’ll never end. I think that’s the worst part about these experiences is not knowing if you’ll be able to pull yourself out of them. You wonder if you’ll ever be back to normal or feel happy and carefree again. You may even forget what it’s like to laugh. I’ve been there. I know how it feels and it ain’t fun. But if you’re going through hell try to remember this. It’s only temporary.
You WILL feel better soon. If there’s one thing for certain about life it’s that it’s forever moving, forever changing, forever continuing forward. Everything changes. Nothing remains the same. It can be both kind and tragic, depending on where you stand.
One of the mantras I’ve come to repeat over and over again when my illness flares up badly is “This is only temporary.” This phrase reminds me that in a few days I’ll be feeling better again, I just have to get through the worst of it…