2 Ways To Powerfully Overcome Your Fears

I have been getting a lot of emails recently from women who say that the biggest thing holding them back from living the life they want to live is fear, fear, fear, fear. FEAR. Big fat FEAR.

So today I wanted to share the two methods to overcome your fears that I also share with my clients and go into a lot of depth in my group mentor mentorship program, Path to Freedom.

These methods will help you reframe your fears in a way that allows you to work WITH and through them instead of have them work against you.

Method #1: Is this fear real or imagined?

The first method to overcome your fears is to ask yourself a simple question – is my fear real or imagined? When we feel fear, most of the time it’s imagined fear. We are projecting a future outcome or making up some outcome that we think is going to happen, but we really have no clue what will play out.

We’re just playing out these scenarios in our head. They are completely made up stories that we’re just telling ourselves about what we think is going to happen. Why do we do this to ourselves?! Why can’t we think of cool stories that will happen instead? Can’t we think of things that we WANT to happen instead?

The Easiest Way To Start a Coaching Business and Replace Your 9-5 Income

I want to talk about the reasons why creating a low-end/cheap course/product or digital product is the absolute worst way to start a coaching business.

I know a lot of people are gonna give me crap for that because that’s how a lot of people have started their coaching businesses, I get it, it works for some people. But I want to tell you why this is an unsustainable, frustrating, and painful way to start an online business, especially a coaching business.

The plain and simple truth: creating and selling a course or digital product takes a long time. Since it’s a painstakingly slow and long process, most people end up quitting before they even see a single dime from the product they’ve created.

GAH, stop the madness!

I see so much entrepreneur burnout and my heart goes out to these amazing people who are trying so hard to make an impact but seeing so little results.

Many new and aspiring coaches think that before they start a coaching business they need to sell an e-book or some other digital product or an affordable course because they don’t feel secure enough in being a coach yet, either with one on one coaching or group coaching.

They don’t feel they are experienced enough, so they try to get that experience through making an ebook or a cheap course.

In other words, they’re hiding.

And I totallllyyy get it because, hey, I hid too.

I WAS this person.

I was the aspiring coach who wanted to work with women, impact the world and help people – but I thought I needed more experience first.

I thought I needed more credibility, I just didn’t feel…ready yet.

So I thought I would put together a quick course or a book – THEN I would be more legit, more official…more credible right?

Wrong. The problem was, I never actually did it. I kept thinking about it and worked on growing my audience and blog traffic in the meantime.

I even did write an ebook but I was too chicken shit to charge for it!

The truth is, I worked SO hard on building an audience so I could sell a product to them that I got burnt out before I actually sold anything to them.

Oh the irony.

And this didn’t just happen to me. It happens to thousands of aspiring entrepreneurs around the world.

They get so focused on content, on building an audience that they often don’t even reach the point of selling anything before they get sick or burnt out and quit.

Or they finally do create something to sell and offer it to their thousand person email list and they get crickets. Or maybe if they’re lucky 10 people buy. But the problem is, they’re selling such a cheap product they just made maybe $1,000 for a years worth of work and hustle. Worth it?

I think not.

I could see this gloomy future ahead of me.

So I switched tactics.

I found an easier way to start a coaching business fast.

3 Ways to Reconnect with Yourself

*In collaboration with Sleep Advisor*

It’s so very easy to get lost in this modern fast-paced world of ours. Every hour we’re awake our self confidence seems to be under attack. We are either bombarded with advertisements intended to make us doubt ourselves or we’re scrolling through ‘friends’ social media posts feeling like failures at life.

One day you wake up and suddenly you can’t actually remember who you are anymore.

It often feels like we are running at full speed just to stay still. Sometimes you just wish you could pause it all. That you could press a button on some kind of cosmic remote control and the world would stand still long enough for you to gather your breath and just catch up.

If you’ve ever felt the way I’ve described above then take a deep breath, or six, go make yourself a nice glass of green tea (don’t forget the slice of lemon) and then come back and read my 3 ways to reconnect with yourself below.

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What does spiritual mean? ALL the common misconceptions and my take on what being spiritual means to me.

So last night I had a thought…there are SO many misconceptions about what being SPIRITUAL means, right? I think so many people avoid this journey because of the negative connotations and misconceptions out there. I started writing down all the misconceptions, the clichés, the commonly held beliefs about spirituality that I’ve heard and felt before. Many of these are ones that actually initially turned me off from becoming spiritual myself! It wasn’t until early 2016 that I really started on my spirituality journey and since I started, it’s taken on so many different forms.

I’ve gone to somewhat extremes on either end of the spectrum to find where I fit in the middle. From hating the word God to reading a book called “Conversations With God” (that I highly recommend by the way!), to staying with a shaman in the rainforests of Peru and going on a plant medicine “healing” journey, to hiring a spiritual health coach, to going on a 5-day silent retreat by myself, practicing yoga, meditating daily, reading different spiritual books, and the list goes on.

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I’ve been exploring as much as I can about the different modalities and cultures of spirituality so that I can start to develop my own definition of what it means to me. And I think that’s what’s most important. That YOU define what being spiritual means to YOU. It’s different from person to person and that’s the beauty of it!

I would love to hear, what are some of the misconceptions you’ve heard or FELT about spirituality? And what does being spiritual REALLY mean to you? What is spirituality to you?

Here are some of the ones that I hear and feel the most.

Being spiritual means being religious.

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The #1 Mistake New Online Entrepreneurs Make That Cause Them To Quit

Hi friends! Ok, it’s been a while since posting on the blog. I’ve been in launch mode with my new group coaching program, Path to Freedom, that teaches women how to quit their jobs by starting their own online businesses in as little as 6 weeks…and now I’m letting the dust settle and getting revved up to serve the awesome ladies in my new group! Today I want to talk to you about the biggest mistake new online entrepreneurs make that cause them to quit before they really get any traction!

So before I jump in, I want to let you know that I did a FB Live video about this topic recently; you can check it out by clicking the image below.Mistake New Online Entrepreneurs Make, Starting an online business, online biz, online business, how to start an online business, online business ideas, soul aligned online business, soul business

Ok, so let’s just dive in! The BIGGEST, aka the #1 mistake new online entrepreneurs make is this: they start an online business before they take the time to connect with their souls or true selves.

This is a huge mistake. Actually, it’s the #1 mistake new online entrepreneurs make!

Why? Because if you don’t connect with your soul first, then chances are your business will not be sustainable.

Why?

How to deal with anxiety or ANY negative emotion

If you guys have been following along with me on Instagram, you know that I’ve really been working on getting more in tune with my body and it’s messages. I’ve been working on feeling into my body and being present with it So this morning when my alarm went off at 7:30 I decided to press snooze. My body was craving more sleep and since I haven’t been sleeping well the last couple months, I decided it was OK to sleep in a bit more. 

I slept for another hour and heard my alarm go off again. I decided to press snooze again. I was just luxuriating in the feeling of good, solid, sleep! I just did NOT want to get up. I guess thats the another upside to being an entrepreneur that I love – you get to create your own schedule. I knew what I had planned for the day and I knew it wasn’t imperative for me to get up then. What I had on my schedule could wait.

I slept another 30 minutes and as I woke up I almost immediately felt some resistance in my body. I felt pangs of guilt and anxiety in the pit of my stomach. Oh, I hate those feelings! But instead of resisting them like I used to, I dug into them deeper. I wanted to find out why they were there. Why was I feeling anxiety when I hadn’t even done anything yet today?! I’ve come to understand that our feelings come from our thoughts. It’s as simple as that.

Most people believe that our circumstances, events, people, situations, etc., cause our feelings. That’s actually not the case. It’s our interpretations and thoughts about our circumstances that cause us to feel a certain way. So our thoughts actually cause our emotions, not our circumstances or events in our lives. Knowing this I just had to ask myself one question: “what thoughts are causing me to feel anxiety or guilt?”

What happens when you let others define success for you

Ahhh, this is going to be a very vulnerable post (because I talk about being fired for the first time to ANYONE besides the 5 closest people to me…here it goes! <3

For a long time I let my version of success be defined by other people. I think most of us do, it’s almost a part of being human – we care what other people think of us, we want to be liked, and we want to fit in. So we often define our version of success or a happy life based on what other people think success or happiness means so we can fit in and be liked.

It wasn’t until I got sick that I stopped and paused long enough to realize this was even happening. For most of my 20’s, I thought success to me meant climbing the corporate ladder, earning 6 figures for a company that was “cool” or highly respected.

After college I worked hard to find a job that I could wear as a badge of honor. I was praying I wouldn’t get one at a company no one had heard of doing work no one would see – the horror! I guess fortunately for my ego at the time I landed a job at a well known advertising agency working on one of the most well known & cool brands in the world.

“Cool!” I thought, “Now anyone who looks at my LinkedIn page will think I’m awesome!” LOL, or something along those lines.

I’m pretty sure NO ONE thought that when they found out I (sort of) worked for this big name brand. In fact, I’m positive no one thought that. Truthfully, no one cares where you work and no one thinks you’re cooler or any better of a person because of that either. Even though it feels that way. Trust me, I know the feeling.

But when I got fired from that job (more on that in a bit) and started working at my next job at a place no one had heard of, nothing changed. Well that’s not true, I learned a lot from being fired, but like I said, more on that in a minute. When I mean nothing changed I mean the fact that I had gone from working for this cool brand to company “unknown” didn’t affect any of my relationships. I didn’t become less cool. I didn’t become any less of a person because of it…

What if you let yourself be OK with being the dumbest person in the room? What if you gave yourself permission to not know everything? What if you let yourself off the hook and allowed yourself not to be better, smarter, more attractive than other people? To not be perfect all the damn time?

How much pressure would that take off of you? How much more would you accomplish simply by being OK with not being the smartest, most successful person in the room? How much more would you learn?

So many of us hold ourselves back by not going after what we want, not going after our dreams or goals because we’re afraid that if we can’t be the best, if we can’t do something perfectly, then we shouldn’t do it at all. Or if we fail then we’ll look like an idiot or a loser or a complete failure. We miss out on learning opportunities because we don’t want to be a dumbass.

So what if you let yourself be the dumbass?

Dumbasses are worthy too…