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What happens when you let others define success for you

Ahhh, this is going to be a very vulnerable post (because I talk about being fired for the first time to ANYONE besides the 5 closest people to me…here it goes! <3

For a long time I let my version of success be defined by other people. I think most of us do, it’s almost a part of being human – we care what other people think of us, we want to be liked, and we want to fit in. So we often define our version of success or a happy life based on what other people think success or happiness means so we can fit in and be liked.

It wasn’t until I got sick that I stopped and paused long enough to realize this was even happening. For most of my 20’s, I thought success to me meant climbing the corporate ladder, earning 6 figures for a company that was “cool” or highly respected.

After college I worked hard to find a job that I could wear as a badge of honor. I was praying I wouldn’t get one at a company no one had heard of doing work no one would see – the horror! I guess fortunately for my ego at the time I landed a job at a well known advertising agency working on one of the most well known & cool brands in the world.

“Cool!” I thought, “Now anyone who looks at my LinkedIn page will think I’m awesome!” LOL, or something along those lines.

I’m pretty sure NO ONE thought that when they found out I (sort of) worked for this big name brand. In fact, I’m positive no one thought that. Truthfully, no one cares where you work and no one thinks you’re cooler or any better of a person because of that either. Even though it feels that way. Trust me, I know the feeling.

But when I got fired from that job (more on that in a bit) and started working at my next job at a place no one had heard of, nothing changed. Well that’s not true, I learned a lot from being fired, but like I said, more on that in a minute. When I mean nothing changed I mean the fact that I had gone from working for this cool brand to company “unknown” didn’t affect any of my relationships. I didn’t become less cool. I didn’t become any less of a person because of it…

This week on the podcast I’m speaking with Lena Elkins, a Millennial business and marketing coach who works with ambitious Millennials from around the world on escaping the 9 to 5 and launching their own online freelance businesses. This episode is all about finding the confidence to trust yourself, learning how to put yourself first, and figuring out how to get more in touch with your true self. 

Yes, Lena is a business coach and maybe starting your own business interests you, but maybe it doesn’t. Either way, what I really wanted to get out of this conversation with Lena was to understand how she was able to leave her corporate job at such a young age, despite her family and friends all thinking it was a bad idea. Where did that confidence come from? She seemed to have figured out who she was and what she wanted to do at such a young age and I wanted to know what it was that made her able to trust herself so much and go out on her own. I wanted to know what she does in her everyday life that might be different than the rest of us who are still trying to figure out who we are. Make sure you stay tuned till the end as Lena will be divulging her secrets, including one she’s never talked openly about before!

In this episode you’ll learn…